Need for being loved Vs. No expectations: A Strange Dilemma

Some of the greatest struggles people have are often between conflicting truths of life. Connection with another human being is a basic human need. After all in the end, all we need is to feel loved, desired and appreciated.

The doctrine of “For a happy life live without expecting anything from anyone” is in great contradiction with this basic need.

Not expecting anything from anyone often for many means desensitising yourself from your own needs and wants.
Desensitising results in you becoming emotionally uninvolved in your own needs and wants, and ignoring them completely. Which is the beginning of lack of self-love.

So keep the expectation of love, honesty and good from people as your primary instinct, however do remember- was life meant to be easy ? No never. It more often than not is going to bring you people you couldn’t expect anything from. Now what ? Shatter, break, lose yourself ? No, now like any resilient system activate your disaster recovery plan or fall back plan. Yes you need to have a solid fall back plan, that which will never betray you. Who else could that be better than you – Yourself !

So prepare your backup plan very well, expect from yourself all that you did from the other, practice the art of self-love, self-compassion practise until, like any good disaster recovery strategy your flip from primary plan to backup is seamless.

Prepare for the worst yet still hope for the best, and believe strongly that the primary plan will turn out to be beautiful, if not now at some point, and the universe will surely bring those kind of people to you.

About the author

An avid reader, a lover of words, a behavioral psychology enthusiast and a passionate writer– I am a strong believer in the immense power a beautifully crafted stream of words carry, and how these words can influence thought. With this knowledge and an intention to spread the message of love, I have created to present my writings to the world primarily themed on Love, Self-awareness and Self-Improvement.